If I had a nickel for every time I've heard the word "boundary" in my office, I'd be positioned for a very comfortable early retirement.

It makes sense why. One of the first things that betrayed partners hear after discovery — whether from a support group or a podcast or the pages of a book — is that they need to set boundaries for their own safety. And I totally agree! The problem is that very few people are ever actually taught what boundaries are, much less how to set and enforce them.

This is a big problem because the need for boundaries is real, and that applies to any relationship! Without boundaries, there can be no real intimacy, no real relational health. Boundaries make intimacy safe. They make lasting connection possible.

This is all the more true in situations in which there's been the discovery of betrayal and the shattering of relational safety. Couples healing from betrayal must grasp the ability of boundaries to restore a sense of trust, respect, and empowerment in the relationship. 

In this webinar, I'm going to share my definition of boundaries I teach to the couples I work with. Simply put, boundaries are a system of limits that protect relationships through clarity, containment, and guidance for mutual empowerment and flourishing.

You see, what most people don't understand about boundaries is that their real power resides in a mutual respect for each person's right to make choices. When I truly grasp this key, I unlock the potential for boundaries to radically transform my relationship for good.