From the desk of Dr. Jake...
Nothing is as fun in my work with couples as when we reach the place in which we get to work on their shared values.
After a measure of healing has come to a relationship that suffered betrayal, mistrust, and attachment rupture, couples can begin looking ahead toward a vision of what they desire for their relationship. I've found that discerning a couple's core values is an empowering process that allows them to begin confidently making choices that move them in the direction they want to go.
Think of core values as the cardinal directions of a compass. They help us to get our bearings. They allow us, in a moment of confusion, to have a sense of both where we are and where we want to be. Core values provide the awareness we need to bring intention to the choices we make, both for ourselves and our relationships.
Far too many couples just assume they share core values. I've seen it literally hundreds of times. Couples who do not talk explicitly about their values end up grieving the violation of those principles they presumed to share.
But when couples do the hard work of vulnerably collaborating on determining a set of core values for their relationship, they find freedom, serenity, and the power to create the future they envision together.
I hope you'll join me for this webinar about core values for couples. If you're ready to step into a shared vision for the future with your partner, this webinar is for you!