"Trust is rebuilt after betrayal not only through learning the truth, but also experiencing the change. The change comes as we learn to move toward our partner's pain, not away from it; as we learn to draw it out, not push it away."
– Dr. Jake Porter
If you betrayed your partner it's really difficult to see yourself as a helper in the healing of her pain.
How do you help her? What do you say? How do you respond? How can you take an active role in helping her heal?
This course is where the one who did the hurting learns how to help with the healing.
This 12 week course, CREATING SAFE SPACE, led by Dr. Windell Gill, is designed to help men learn emotional skills that will help them help their hurting partners.
Limited to eight men.
Twelve powerful sessions.
Access to course material.
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A WORD FROM DR. GILL
About Dr. Windell Gill, PSAP
Windell has more than twenty years of pastoral ministry counseling experience. His experience includes working with families and individuals on issues ranging from sexual identity to multiple addictions. He coaches individuals, couples, and families toward a holistic cognitive/emotional awareness that results in behavioral transformation. Windell serves as a consultant to local municipalities training adolescent offenders to make better choices by managing emotional impulses. He is a certified faculty member of the Emotional Intelligence Training and Research Institute, which presents emotional intelligence research promoting life transformation. Windell has conducted multiple seminars on emotional literacy for behavioral management and consults through SELAH4Life. His doctoral research identified the impact of emotional labor on well-being and found specific behavioral mechanisms necessary for maintaining positive health when undergoing life stresses.
Dr. Gill earned a Master of Divinity from Southwestern Seminary, a Master of Science in Education from University of Houston at Clear Lake, and a Doctorate in Education from Lamar University. He trained through the International Association of Trauma and Addiction Professionals and is a Certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional. He has also trained through the Thinking Collaborative in Cognitive Coaching, which is a research-based model to enhance cognitive processes that support self-managing, self-monitoring and self-modifying behavior.
What's Covered in this course?
How to be present with the pain
Learning to be vulnerable
How to exchange empathy
Learning to be more emotionally intimate
And much more!
A word from Dr. Jake...
I've worked with literally hundreds of couples who are in the process of healing from the wounds of betrayal and infidelity. A common difficulty for many who have done the hurting is a sense of shame and powerlessness to help with the healing. Yet that is exactly what many betrayed partners long for most: to find comfort and safety in the midst of their pains and fears with the very people who initially caused the wound.
And I know it is possible! The power of empathy must not be doubted. This course is designed to strengthen the emotional intelligence skills of men who have committed betrayal, with a specific focus on developing empathy.
The facilitator, Dr. Windell Gill, is both a friend and colleague. His doctoral research was in the area of emotional intelligence and labor, and his years of experience as an educator, pastor, chaplain, and recovery coach have uniquely equipped him for this task. I could not think of a better man to lead the CREATING SAFE SPACE program.
I hope you'll join Dr. Gill and experience the joy of being a healing presence for the one you love.